Widowed by Sharon Trusty and Barry Corkern CFP, is one of my staples because Sharon Trusty does a great job sharing the different stages from the loss of her husband to the different decisions she had to make over the next several years including her decision to date again.The emotions you walk through feeling so alone are very valid and real because as a wife, the role is entirely different than the husband. Not minimizing the loss of a wife but I am speaking to women. I highly recommend this book to validate your feelings and help walk it out the first year.
Leaving Egypt Finding God in the Wilderness Places by Chuck DeGroat is a great book because when a wife’s husband passes away, the wife now has to deal with leaving where she was potentially going and now moving into another direction. Chuck DeGroat tells us that we can be enslaved to our identity and how to move beyond that.
A Grace Disguised by Jerry Sittser was a book I kept reading every day until it was complete. What this man experienced was such a loss there is few to compare. After losing his wife, a child and his mother because of a drunk driver, he had to learn to deal with the tremendous aftermath in his soul and to help his very young children. I recommend this book highly to help process your grief, it helped tremendously because it deals with the grace needed through such suffering and trials.
George Mueller, His life of Prayer and Faith is my greatest tool of books in my library next to the bible.This man, next to Jesus, I have read and studied the most. While running a non-profit, faith and prayer are key along with raising many children and walking through difficulty.
A Grief Observed by CS Lewis brings to light the anger you kind of deal with walking through loss of a loved one. CS Lewis can bring many things to life. He shares how right after his love passed away, the emotions from anger to faith in the time of loss, how he wanted to be in the room with many people yet did not want anyone to talk to him. I so felt that way for several months. I wanted to be alone, then I wanted to be with people. It can be confusing but author Lewis does a good job in an easy to read book filled with understanding.
First Things First by Stephen Covey is a staple for me that I have read over and over again for over 20 years. It helped me deal to learn how important building a good legacy is and to see that my choices in the moment could somehow affect my future. I read everything Stephen Covey that I can and I listen to his audio teachings. He has done a good job teaching on integrity. I have read Seven Habits of Highly Affective People as well which is just as good. As one man stated, “These are good principles but doing them is what counts,” I could not agree more. My thoughts are, make small changes for the better. Don’t try to make a lot of changes that are unrealistic but small consistent changes. This book helped me refocus back on a new mission for my life as a widow and I was encouraged to write a new mission statement for life.